I commend my parents for reaching their 30 year anniversary
of marriage. They have come a very long way and I appreciate that they raised
me in a house with both parents. However, in today’s society, is marriage really
a lifelong commitment?
My parents met in a church and they became good friends
before they started dating. My father was married for 10 years before he and my
mother began their journey together. He has five children from his previous
marriage, one from his girlfriend and just little ole me from my mother, so
that makes 7 of us! My mother had me when she was 36 years old, so I do have the
older parents. My mother is 62 and my father is 64 today but I can say that my
life was pretty good. Unfortunately, a lot of marriages end and most troubling,
children are involved. There wasn’t a time when I didn’t want brothers and
sisters but my parents kept my life busy. From traveling to being in extracurricular
activities, my life was very pleasant. I am who I am today because of them.
From past posts and the about me description, you can see that I had goals I
wanted to accomplish and I did but they never left my side. I am now 26 years
old and divorced. Me, divorced? Yes. I am divorced. At first I was in denial
but when it hit me hard, I realized it was for the best interest of my
children. And my children are perfectly fine with the decision that he and I
decided to make. It doesn’t mean we don’t love each other anymore. It doesn’t
mean that we can’t be committed to each other in a different way. And it
certainly doesn’t mean that we can’t make it work as a family because of it.
We all know that in the past, marriage was sacred and commitment
was forever. Today, marriages only last so long and children are back and forth
parent to parent. That is life as we know it today, but it is not unfortunate
for children to live with. It is the norm today and children have learned to
adapt with that lifestyle. As long as the children are loved, nurtured and
cared for by both parents, they will grow up to be pretty decent human beings
(adults).
Here’s an article that gives more insight:
Is Divorce Bad for Children?
The breakup may be painful, but most kids adjust well over time http://www.scientificamerican.com/article.cfm?id=is-divorce-bad-for-children
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